I have never been shy about our plans to adopt. Naturally, people ask questions as a part of their interest in us and what we are doing. So I will try to answer some of the common questions. Today I will start with "who".
Who do to adopt? What age? Boy/Girl? You know, the basics.
We would like 2 children. I don't have a strong need for an itty bitty baby so we have always thought that we would adopt both at the same time and try to keep a sibling group together. Adoption can be very hard for children. They are suddenly ripped away from everything and everyone that they know. Suddenly the only people they have are two complete strangers (that would be me and Josh... the complete strangers). These strangers don't even speak their language or know the kiddie basics like how to buckle a car seat (seriously, are there classes for that? those things are complicated) or how much food a kid eats (I usually try to feed my nieces and nephew way too much until Josh tells me that I'm nuts). I hope that having a sibling there will somehow make those first months a little bit easier on them.
We have always talked about 2 kids under the age of 5, but we are open to the possibility of older. Who knows, we will see. That one is pretty unknown.
Boy or girl? We don't care. I would love to see Josh teaching a son how to play sports, understand sports, chart insane amounts of sports statistics on any little piece of paper laying around the house... if you know Josh, you know what I mean. At the same time I would love to see Josh wrapped around the little finger of a beautiful little girl. Boy or girl, I am excited about all the things we will get to share with them. Josh is so good with our nieces and nephew, I can't wait to see him with our own kids.
When you have biological kids you might have some guesses as to what traits they might inherit from you. With adoption this is all a mystery. Will they be patient like Josh? Will they be strong willed like me? Will they be detailed like Josh? Will they be inquisitive like me? What books will they like to read before bed? Will they be outgoing or shy? Will they love legos as much as I did when I was a kid? I can't wait to find out!