This book, Adoption is a Family Affair, is part of our required reading. (No, I'm not joking. You actually get a list from your agency of required reading.) This book is not a mainstream book and so it was published on a more small scale. It does have a fair number of typos and not all aspects of it will apply to all families, but definitely still worth reading. It is a very quick read. I think my mom read it in 2 hours.
The fact is that when you decide to adopt, you make that decision for your family and friends too. All of a sudden they have to rethink what they expected and try to figure out what the right thing to say and do is in all of this. It's not their decision and yet it impacts them. For that reason I think this is a great book for anyone who is: adopting, thinking about adopting, related to someone who is adopting, and/or friends with someone who is adopting. Whether you agree or disagree with that loved one's decision, this book will help you think through your own thoughts, how to handle things, and what you can do to be supportive.
Josh & I already read it. My parents read it while we were in Mexico. And my mother-in-law has it now. It is currently available on half.com for just $2.40 or you are welcome to borrow my copy once it circles through those of my family who want to read it. Just say the word.